Happy people do not possess any superpower and extra power to stay happy. They do a few things that make them happy and the thing sad people never do. Like, they spend time on relationships, love, set goals, kindness, and search for little pleasure and expression. Staying happy is over choice, if we want to be happy, we will stay happy. Science proved that we can change our lives by changing our way of thinking and we can create happiness by ourselves by do little effort.
The following are the few things that happy people are never doing and if you want to peace in your lives then skip these things from your lives.
Comparison with others
Every person has a different personality, abilities, disabilities, strengths, and weaknesses. Happy people understand this and don’t compare their lives and their personality with others. They are only confident about what they are, what they have, and what they do. They don’t concentrate on other business. They only focus on themselves and try to improve their own life. Because they know it is useless to pay attention to other’s lives and forget their own.
Live in dream
Happy people believe in reality, they don’t live in dreams. If they think about something, they also know how to get it. They try to fulfill their dream and work hard until they don’t achieve what they want. Those people only dream all day and do nothing to make it possible; they stay sad because they don’t get anything.
Choose a short time pleasure
If you want long time happiness than you have to ignore short time pleasure and focus on long time happiness. Happy people don’t focus on a pleasure which is time being and last for a few days or week. They focus on long time pleasure like they keep struggling and don’t stop it when they get anything. They continue their struggle and make it possible to achieve happiness which lasts long. Don’t choose short time pleasure because it always cries you later on.
Happy people never hold grudges in their hearts and mind, because they know it is the most powerful thing which makes them sad. If you hold grudges about someone, you will continuously think about him which makes you sad. If someone does badly with you and hurt you, try to forgive him or her. If you can’t forgive, forget. I think forget is much easier than forgiving. Hold grudges always make you sad and it also affects your personality badly.
Happy people never gossip about others. They know it is a waste of time and there are many other works which they can do instead of doing gossips. If you do gossips about someone, it may hurt them and you never stay happy after hurting someone. Try to avoid gossips and mind your own business. It surely gives you some relief and mental satisfaction and once you get mental satisfaction, you will stay happy always.
Try to change others
All you can change is yourself but sometimes that changes everything. Happy people don’t try to change anyone they change themselves. Changing someone in the most foolish thing which you ever do. You are responsible for yourself, not others. If someone does something wrong with you, don’t change them. Change yourself and never put trust in them. Change yourself according to your society and environment, if you seriously want to be happy.
Successful individuals are not happy, and a definite sign that somebody is deficient with regards to genuine delight in their life is that they get joy out of making others hopeless, miserable, and bullying their subordinates, partners, or any other individual in their life. Clinical therapists say about happy people that, a really happy person doesn’t want to collect power and benefit to the detriment of others. As such a happy individual is safe himself from the harmful sentiments that live inside the stead, pundit, or bully.
Happy people are never losing hope no matter what happened or happening in their life. When life tries to let you down you have two options you sat down and so nothing or you keep moving and don’t lose your hope. The first option will keep you feeling caught and thrashed while the last will keep you pushing you ahead regardless. Show restraint. Hold tight. Rehash to yourself ‘It will work out.’ And it will one day.